Sounds like a joke or prank right? 🤣
Don’t worry, before you complain – there’s a similar training for women on how not to stress out men. But that’s not the topic for this piece.
I created this real training. Because honestly, from my experience with matchmaking –and dating – I see men do the same insensible things – cluelessly boring and annoying all of my polite women. When it could honestly be so easy for them to win with the one they want, instead of losing repeatedly and infinitely.
There’s a mantra nowadays saying “it’s a numbers game”. It really isn’t though. Throughout the vast majority of human existence – it was NOT a numbers game, so much as it was a competence game. Granted that back then, women just had to suffer in boredom and annoyance as a way of life. Numbers back in the savannah in prehistoric days, or in the village in the countryside of the rural prairie, or even in the neighborhood at the turn of the century, was what – 10 or 20 women at the most? Now it’s 10,000 women, or a virtual infinite number of women – at least that’s how many you can swipe through. But failing on every single one? Come on now.
To use a sports metaphor if it helps – it’s like coaching or watching a group of boys taking diaper shots at the hoop backwards from midcourt – insisting “It’s a numbers gameeee!” and missing 99.5% of the shots. The boys tell themselves they’re being cool and independent and original – a real maverick. Playing the game their own way. But are they actually in the game at all? Really they’re just scared of the intimidating and impressive center and forwards in the paint, and also never learned how to shoot properly.
When it could be so painfully and obviously much easier 🤦🏻♀️
It’s so infuriating, but also I feel really bad for them. So I felt compelled to call into existence this training. I also love building and fixing things, especially socially.
I’m running this with another matchmaker, and we’re giving men 15 shots. That’s it. But we’re helping them too. Talking to 15 women whether it’s a girl they’re already crushing on or pining over, an ex they’re trying to win back, a hot girl at the gym, someone from work, a cute girl from the apps, or a pretty girl from the matchmaking (Lovéya, Procreate Match yay!) – but 15 shots to Win with a woman they really like.
We made it a group so that men wouldn’t feel ashamed or lonely or embarrassed. We also added a private 1:1 session for those who wanted more privacy and attention. I’d say 90% of single men bore and / or annoy women, and maybe 50% of married men could use help too honestly.
Here’s the copy.
Thought you had a great date — and then she disappeared?
You don’t need to be “alpha.” You don’t need tricks.
How To Not Bore or Annoy Women™ is for men with good intentions who just want straightforward guidance with no judgment. This training teaches emotional intimacy, emotional safety, and understanding what women truly need from good men—so you understand what’s actually happening.
A selective cohort with other high-caliber men.
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How To Not Bore or Annoy Women™
We made it so men have to apply, so we don’t have to deal with jokers.
So far, I’ve been loving the conversations and reactions. It’s somewhat hilarious, but also soul-stirring. And honestly so much fun! The guys who have been engaging with it so far have been the more good-natured and good-character types, like the “he’s a solid guy” type of guy ☺️
I’m excited about this and hope it serves men all over the country. As I want to help cure and fix this loneliness epidemic – for both the poor well-intentioned blokes out there – and for all of the poor bored and annoyed chicas who are suffering 😌
